VALENTINE'S DAY @ DAMORY SCHOOLS, IBADAN.

Smiling...my proprietress friend, Mrs Mary Iyeritufu Afolabi made sure she "dragged" me all the way from Ota down to Ibadan yesterday. It was great speaking to these precious souls yesterday. You can also learn from this....

SEX EDUCATION: MY PRECIOUS PRIVATE PART...

Private means exclusively for you, no intrusion, no outsider. It's not only your vagina or penis that is your private part, your thigh, lips, buttocks, armpit, upper arm, shoulder, neck are also your private part, your precious property. Meant for you, to be seen by you only.

Real golden wristwatches are not displayed on the floor at Oshodi market. You can't find 100 carat gold on the ground at Idumota, Lagos while desperate sellers scream for buyers at the top of their lungs! No! It is well enclosed in a glass and you can't touch if you are not buying and when you buy, you pay a lot because it is not common, it is not everywhere, it is not cheap! affordable bridesmaid wears for wedding party

Great destinies are not common, are not everywhere are not cheap! You have a great destiny ahead of you, therefore, you, can't allow yourself to be touched and tampered with.

You package yourself with honour and dignity. There is a way you talk, walk and behave, men will be scared to touch you, anyone who dares it dares fire and your esteem in their eyes is high!

I remember a fellow staff mistakenly stepped on me while I was still single and wanted to help clean my leg, I pulled my leg off and told him men don't touch my leg. He was flabbergasted. He gave a second look and walked away. That is how some girls fall into sex. It starts as innocently as cleaning legs then it progresses into something else!

AVOIDING PRE-MARITAL SEX

Do not allow anyone see your private part, it is sacred, holy, pure and for a great future purpose.

Don't allow any boy/girl move close to your lips or touch it.
Don't allow any boy put his hand in your breast or hip pocket.
Don't allow any girl touch your thigh or groin.
Don't allow any girl move close to your lips.
Always sit with your laps closed together as a girl. Stop throwing your laps wide apart.
Do not form the habit of visiting the opposite sex.
Do not sit on the opposite sex's laps.
Do not hug/embrace the opposite sex.
Stop wearing skimpy clothes around, it is dangerous.
Avoid wearing bum shorts, tank tops, tubes, spaghetti beyond your bedroom.
Stop watching pornography.
Don't allow same girls (lesbians) or same boys (gay) play with your private part.
Stop begging boys/men for money. Be contented with whatever your parents give you.

AVOIDING SEXUAL ABUSE AS A GIRL

Do not undress before your dad.
Don't allow your daddy touch your private part, buttocks or breast.
Don't undress before your brothers, cousins, uncles or any opposite sex.
Don't allow your siblings, cousins, uncles, male teachers touch your sensitive body parts.
If you are touched inappropriately, scream, move away and avoid the person as much as possible.
If you are pressurized for sex,don't keep quiet. Inform your parent, pastor's wife, proprietress or any trusted woman that can help you intervene in the matter.
Do not stay alone in the dark with any opposite sex.

AVOIDING SEXUAL ABUSE AS A BOY

Do not dress/undress before your sibling, cousins, aunt or mother.
Don't allow anyone touch your penis, scrotum, thigh or buttocks.
Don't allow any girl play with your penis or lips.
If your aunt, teacher, cousin or siblings touch you inappropriately, shout and move away from the person.
Don't allow fellow boys play with your penis.
Refuse to kiss anyone forcing your lips down on theirs. Refuse to to touch their breasts or touch their private parts.

CAN A TEENAGER DATE?

No, you can't. Until you know exactly what you want out of life, you can take care of yourself, pay all your bills, take care of a wife and a baby, feed yourself and children, you have no business dating the opposite sex. The purpose of dating is to find a life partner, are you ready to get married?

THE DANGER OF TEENAGE DATING

Academic distraction
Low self esteem
Sexual pressure
Sexual experimentation
Premarital sex
Low, battered, shattered self esteem

AVOIDING DATE RAPE

No dating.
No drinking juice, or anything offered by the opposite sex. Some drinks are drugged. Lots of ladies have lost their virginity while on date.
Avoid skimpy, body revealing clothes. Men are moved by sight. If you turn them on and you say NO when they ask for sex they will rape you!
No meeting/walking with the opposite sex in the dark.
No partying/clubbing.

WHY YOU SHOULD STAY OFF SEX AND KEEP YOUR VIRGINITY

You have a powerful self esteem.
You are focused in your studies and excel.
You don't have a past that will haunt you forever.
You avoid unwanted pregnancy.
You avoid soul tie.
You avoid generational curses.
You avoid demonic possession.
You will fulfil your destiny.
You avoid STDs.
You avoid pain, shame and regret.
Your spouse will honour you in future.
God is proud of you.
Some may say, STDs can be avoided by using condoms and pregnancy with family planning pills...hmmm...I pity your future!

DANGERS OF TAKING PILLS TO AVOID PREGNANCY

Breast cancer
Cervical cancer
Acute acne/skin problem
Hormonal imbalance
Pre-mature ageing
Depression, paranoia, psychosis, neurosis
Unnecessary weight gain/loss
Risk of ectopic pregnancy among others
Abstinence from sex is the best.

Know who you are. You are not an ordinary person. You have a great future ahead of you. The devil knows this and will do anything to abort it. Premarital sex is one of the numerous tools he uses. You won't fall for it. I love you plenty. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2018.